Tears in My Eyes

Tears in my eyes because this whole site is all about relationships, wither you are in the dating stage or experiencing problems in a marriage. Either way you have time and emotions involved in it. I just checked my statistics on this site and I feel like I’m failing you.

Because my statistics on this site says about half of you all are back for the second and sometimes more then that to visit and didn’t find the answers you were looking for the first time. Maybe it was because you were pressed for time on the first visit, who knows.

The fact is I have been where some of you are right now and that is not exactly what I would call a happy place. I have to live with regrets from what I did or didn’t do in my relationship for lack of knowledge, but hind site is always 20/20.

When you are having relationship problems who can you really talk to? Your friends or family? As well meaning as they are, more than likely they are only hearing your half of the story. How can they give you sound advice if they can’t see the whole big picture?

I have tears in my eyes for you because I know how human nature works. When we tell our troubles to friends or family we don’t really want to take any blame for them ourselves we just want them fixed. It’s not like we are trying to lie or be dishonest about it. It’s that we only look through our own eyes and can’t see our partners point of view.

The big problem with that is, if or when you do get your issues worked out with your partner. Your friends or family look down on them for treating you so bad. They may not even like them any more because of what you told them. That’s not really fair to your relationship.

Either you, your partner or both could suffer because of it. If they don’t respect your partner any more, now you will have to choose sides when you are around them. I don’t think that’s a position that you really want to be in when it all could have been avoided.

Now I’m sure that you are special and I don’t mean to put tears in your eyes saying this but, could some of the fault of your problems have come from your actions or inactions? In any relationship with two imperfect people there is going to be a few issues come up from time to time. If you can’t work them out between yourselves than buy a book on relationships or find a counselor to help you through this time but, don’t get your friends or family involved in the matter.

Keep your relationship skeletons in your own closet. There is nothing to gain by showing them off. You two may have a great time in bed but, there is no reason to video tape it and put that on the web for the whole world to see either. Sex is not a spectator sport! And most people you tell your relationship problems to are not professionals they are just judgmental spectators that could possible throw all the blame on you.

The bottom line is a relationship is always moving sometimes fast and sometimes slow but it will always be moving you closer together or farther apart. It’s sort of like a horse, you maybe in the saddle ridding but if you fall asleep you won’t know where that horse has taken you until you wake up.

In most cases it will be back in the barn where you started from (single again) if you don’t take the reins. That’s not to say you should be a control freak by any means. This is a relationship after all. You are not ridding alone in this partnership however, you may have to take control every once in a while to keep it on course.

If you have tears in your eyes over your relationship go ahead and dry them right now because there is still hope! If your relationship has taken a turn for the worst no matter if you are still dating or married. I have some suggestions for you.

But, before I do I have to tell you this. I’m going to give you two different links depending on your circumstance to choose from. They are for two different e-books you can down load instantly if you choose. And yes, I will make a few bucks if you click on one of my links and buy one of these books. That will help me cover my web hosting fees.

So far my sales hasn’t even done that at the time of this article. Which is no problem! If I can just help save one relationship out of the deal I’ll consider it money well spent. It’s not all about me it’s about you.

That being said: If you have split up and want your ex back click on this link The Magic of Making up. This has tons of advise on how to get your ex back and keep them. Really good stuff on how to use psychology to achieve your goals.

The next book I recommend is Save My Marriage Today. If you are still together and just having problems. Either one of them is less than one session with a marriage counselor. It’s not always easy to get your partner to go to one anyway.

If either of the books don’t work for you then you can get your money back within 60 days. No questions asked. Not every one wants to spill their guts in front of a marriage counselor so, you have another way to achieve your goal without embarrassing your mate and at the same time taking control of the reins for a while.

Before I end this article I would like to say thank you all that have visited this site from 26 different countries and I welcome any and all comments except from the owners of porno sites. I refuse to let them link to this one because that kind of thing doesn’t help a relationship one little bit.

This blog is set up to let me approve all comments before they are seen by the rest of the world and I will delete any and all coming from porno sites with links back to that kind of stuff! However, I welcome any comments from the readers that are having relationship issues. Good, bad or indifferent. Just don’t spill your guts for the whole world to see, not that they will have access to your e-mail address like I will.

Any comments that are not spam will receive a (as in one) reply from me personally. Any comments that you have to add your e-mail address to does not end up on a mailing list. The whole reason for this site is just to help couples stay together.

I will be adding a contact page for all those that are to shy to make any comments on this blog soon. In the mean time feel free to e-mail me at admin@back2gether.com and let me know how I can help your situation in your relationship end up the way you want it to be.

Can’t promise that it will help you because, all I can do is give you sound advise and the rest will be up to you to take it or not. It will help me know what kind of articles to write to help others also and keep tears out of all of our eyes.