Marriage Mistakes

Marriage Mistakes

Can you tell me, what marriage mistakes are? Oh, now come on, be nice! Just because you got married doesn’t mean that was a mistake. It seemed like a good idea at the time. I see, the honey moon is over now and those little things are not so little any more.

And now you’re saying to your self, “I don’t want to put up with this crap for the rest of my life, I love them and I don’t want a divorce and I can’t kill them although, the thought has crossed my mind a time or three so, what am I going to do?”

Well, my hat is off to you if you have ruled out divorce and killing them! So, your better option for solving marriage mistakes would be open and honest communication. Ok, here is the hard part! You can’t take their marriage mistakes to heart. In other words don’t take offense and let it drive a wedge between you.

More than likely they did it out of ignorance anyway and just need a little training. Let me back up here just a little bit on the word training because, I know some body is going to read this that just got a dog so, those shock collars and rolled up news papers on the nose is not what was meant by training. That might be Ok for a dog but, that could get you hurt if you try that with your mate.

I’m still talking about open and honest communication for solving marriage mistakes. And women are so good at this! Let’s say a couple is at a party and the husband is trying to be funny and ends up making his wife the butt of the joke.  What do you do if you’re the wife?

Here’s a true story. I was at a party and the husband was telling a crowd around him it’s our anniversary next week and I thought I’d take her back to the same hotel where we spent our honey moon in and even get the same room but, this time it’s my turn to lock myself in the bath room and say it’s too big, it’s too big.

Well, this gal is a lady in every sense of the word and she just laughed with the rest of them. As not to cause a scene but, I’m pretty sure when they got home she told him about his marriage mistakes.

Now, communication can mean a lot of things from smoke singles, Morse code, text messaging, phone calls, in person verbal contact, sign language, hand jesters, body language or eye contact and the list goes on. However, you have to have your own special way to communicate with your mate to get your point across in public without making a scene.

Now, when you’re home that’s a little different. Use open and honest communication with love. Sometimes, walking away is communication with love also. For instance, if your mate is making marriage mistakes and throwing a fit and ranting and raving and using foul language. Walking away is better than taking verbal abuse.

God didn’t put those paddles on your head (ears) to be garbage cans. There is no point trying to have a conversation with them at that point because, they’re not listening anyway. Let them calm down and then communicate with love. Tell your side of the story without condemning them.

Ok, this is one of the biggest marriage mistakes! Lack of sexual intimacy. It happens all the time and then infidelity creeps into a marriage. Wonder why? Duh? There is an old saying “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” And that really is true up to a point but, actually it’s a little lower than that.

Let me prove my point here before I go on with any more marriage mistakes. I don’t know if you are a Christian or not but, I’m sure that you have heard of the Bible you know one of the best selling books of all time.

There was a guy in there known as King David but, before he was a king he killed a giant named Goliath. Do you know his motive to risk his life when the whole army wouldn’t take on the task? Well, it was for the king’s daughter.  To put it bluntly it was for sex. He asked three times if it was true if he would kill the giant he could have the king’s daughter. Read it for your self 1st Samuel 17:23-30.

Grant it he was a horny teenager at the time but, God still called him a man after his own heart.

Ok, here’s another marriage mistake. When you say you’ll do something and not do it! What is up with that? If you say you’ll take the trash out and you don’t or say you’ll do the dishes and you don’t. You have lost trust and that is BIG bonding factor.

I know there could be reasons why you didn’t do something but, if those reasons are really excuses after a while your word is NO good. And there is no trust! And a mate has to trust their spouse but, if they can’t the relationship is all but over. No body likes to be lied to.

There is a thing called truth and integrity. If you say it mean it. If you say it do it. Actions actually do speak louder than words.

Money can be another one of the marriage mistakes. If money is tight you both need to know where it’s going. It has to be something agreed upon before it’s spent or one of you is going to feel cheated. And feelings is another one of the BIG things in a marriage. That’s what started this whole thing to begin with.

You had feelings for them and they had feelings for you. You both had to give up something to be together and now one of you is getting a little greedy and being self centered and the other one is doing without and giving up more then they planed on. And that’s not a good thing.

There are so many marriage mistakes that one blog post just can’t cover them all. It would take a whole book and that’s just what my friend Amy covers in hers. So, if you’re looking for practical easy solutions to help you get along better with your mate then you are only a click away from eliminating most of your marriage mistakes.

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