I just wanted to say Thank You to all my readers. Why you all read my ramblings? Who knows? It sure isn’t me, that’s for sure! I check my stats on this site at least twice a day to see if anyone has left a comment and I get new visitors and old visitors every day coming back but very few comments.
I have no Idea where you live, what your name is or what your particular situation is that would even bring you here to this site. All I know is you came from 36 different countries this month, some of the folks own a porno site and want to leave a comment with their web address to attract my visitors. Well, that will never happen!
I don’t mind a bit to share your link if you own a web site but, no porn! I’m trying to help save relationships here not brake them up. I figure if you are into that sort of thing you can find it on your own without any help from me.
I know some of you are readers looking for answers because, you’ll stay an hour or longer. And only about 1 out of a 1,000 will leave a comment unless they’re wanting to plug a porno site. So, you must be the shy type. Or, maybe just too kind to tell me this site stinks. And that maybe the case. I may just be wasting my time with it! I don’t know for sure.
Here’s an e-mail address if you want to leave a comment, and you don’t want any one else to see: comments@back2gether.com
That’s pretty much all I know about you my readers. So, just to be up front and honest with you let me share about me. Now, would be a good time to hit the back button. I will never know you did. You can’t hurt my feelings any way.
If you have spent any time reading on this blog you have probably figured out that I’m only human. Yes I make mistakes too. And that’s alright we all do. The only problem is if you don’t learn from them you will keep making the same one over and over. And who has time for that?
I got married shortly after high school back in 1977. My granddad and brothers were my best men. That was a pretty good day! My buddy said we could borrow his Cadillac for the honey moon. But, he never showed up so we had to cram into my mustang with all my work tools in the back seat and trunk. And off we went for our new life together.
It was great until a few months later when I realized the honey moon was over. We both had some growing up to do if this was going to last. The first few years were rough to say the least. But, we worked it out and had our first daughter and when she was 13 months old she past away.
A few months later our oldest son was born. That helped take our minds off of our loss. A couple years later #2 son was born and then a couple years later #3 son was born and a couple years later my last daughter was born. By then I figured out I was married to fertile Mertil and went to the doctor and got fixed.
I really didn’t want any more kids but, I wouldn’t take a million dollars for any one of them I have. Although they are grown now.
10 years ago this Thanksgiving my wife took the kids and moved out. A few months later she filed for a divorce and a few months after that it was all over. 23 years of marriage down the drain. Now, I won’t go into any details or try to throw all the blame on her. We just couldn’t work out our differences. Basically she just out grew me. People change over the years and some more than others it could have all been worked out but, she was ready to move on.
So, now your probably asking yourself why should I listen to this 51 year old divorced guy giving me advise about my marriage? And that’s an excellent question! You see, I’ve seen both sides of the coin and I can give you a heads up on how you flip that coin so you don’t end up tails down and in a divorce court and have to start all over again.
I grew up in the home building business and the last three years have been pretty slow because of the economy. So, I had time to rethink my life. What could I have done to make it better. How can I help other folks not to make some of the same mistakes that I’ve made.
Most mistakes are made because of lack of knowledge or training. When it comes to relationships people don’t look for advise until major issues come up. And then they’ll ask friends or relatives to help them. The only problem with that is they usually only hear one side of the story and just make matters worse.
Every situation is a little different because we all have our own baggage we tend to carry around. Some of us grew up in a home where our parents are still together and seem to have a good marriage. But, we didn’t pay attention on how they worked out their differences to keep it that way.
And then others grew up in a broken home with one parent and don’t know what a real marriage is all about. It just comes natural to be self centered. As babies when we want something we cry get attention and get our needs met. Not much work involved if you are the baby.
As adults our methods have changed but, we still want what we want when we want it. And the less work the better. That’s just how we are and the sooner we out grow that mentality the better our relationships will be.
Now, I’m not stupid enough to think that I can help everybody. I can only help someone that will listen to sound advise. If you’ve been reading much on this blog you know it’s all sound. Although some of the first posts are not as good as the latter ones but, I was just getting started then and people were hungry for this kind of stuff and reading it anyway.
The point is I’m not afraid to fail if I can help just one couple keep their relationship together I feel like I’m sowing a good seed.
Anyway, this blog is not about me. It’s about helping relationships mainly yours. So, if there is a particular subject you would like to read about leave me a comment and I’ll see what I can do for you.
