I Feel Like My Husband
Doesn’t Love Me Anymore
More and more women are saying I feel like my husband doesn’t love me anymore so, don’t feel alone on that. There can be several reasons for it if, you stop to think about it. Apparently he loved you at one point in time or you wouldn’t have married him so, what’s changed since then?
Is he being a real bear to live with? Actually you may be also, because people and bears do have some things in common when it comes to our off spring. Women can be like mother bears and get over protective with her cubs and when papa bear feels like he is losing the attention he needs, he gets as grouchy as a bear.
One of the differences between men and bears is bears have a mating season and if there are cubs blocking the attention he wants he has no problem killing the cubs to get to the mother. Most men won’t go to that extreme though, they’ll come closer to going into hibernation or finding another woman. Either way will leave you with that feeling.
So, if you are saying I feel like my husband doesn’t love me anymore, could it be that you are giving more attention to your children than you are your husband? That’s actually understandable at times when they are babies or when they’re sick but, they will grow up someday and leave you and then your husband could be gone by then if you’re not careful.
Since men aren’t bears sometimes they can be the ones that act like old mother hens and spend so much time with the kids it makes you feel like your husband doesn’t love you anymore.
Every marriage is going to be a little different because, they all deal with two unique individuals with their own back grounds and way of thinking. That in its self doesn’t make it good or bad, it’s all in how you handle the situations that come up that makes the difference.
Most marriage problems revolve around just a handful of key issues like: lack of honest and open communication, imbalances in power and obligations, differences in opinions and values and if you have any of those infidelity may raise its ugly head in the mix.
Marriage can be more entertaining than a three ring circus and seem like more work then a juggling act at times to keep everything flowing smoothly. Between the in-laws, out-laws, kids, school, jobs, friends, and all the other people and activities that we all have to deal with, it’s easy for a wife to say I feel like my husband doesn’t love me anymore.
The reality is, if he hasn’t left you and still comes home to you, it’s simply not true. Feelings and reality can be two different things at times. Just because you have a pain in your side doesn’t mean your appendix burst, does it? It could be just gas or something else and most generally it is.
The bottom line is, feelings can be deceiving at times however, if they are right, then there has to be a reason for it. Something has changed since the honeymoon! Now, what could it possibly be to make you say I feel like my husband doesn’t love me anymore?
Any wife can tell you men are slow to change by themselves. Right or wrong they are stable creatures for the most part. And we won’t even talk about the stubborn part. Mules have nothing on men as far as that goes.
There’s an old saying a man wants his wife to be a lady on the street but, a whore in his bedroom. And it’s really not all about sex either although that’s a big part of it. Why do you think prostitution is one of the oldest businesses in the world and still thriving today?
Because, they know how to sell themselves and they know what their customer’s needs and desires are! It has nothing to with love for them; they’re just applying the tricks of their trade. (pun intended) And they could care less if their John is married or not. Although married men can be easier targets at times.
Hookers are smart enough to know you can catch more flies with sugar than you ever will with vinegar. So, they pour on the charm and make their victims feel admired, respected and appreciated. And they’re not afraid to dish out the compliments to give him that feeling to make him feel good about himself so, he’ll want to come back for more.
And if you would do the same thing you wouldn’t have to worry about any other women taking your place. And you won’t be saying I feel like my husband doesn’t love me anymore.
As tough and stubborn as men can sometimes be it’s usually just a layer of protection. He puts it on to keep from getting hurt from the disrespect of nagging and the feeling of being unappreciated.
If you happen to be a nagging wife then it’s no wonder you feel like your husband doesn’t love you anymore. What happens when a wife harps on something for very long the husband subconsciously feels like you are criticizing him or calling him stupid. Since it’s not like you haven’t mentioned it before and he forgot about it.
Sometimes that may actually be the case. Usually the chore or whatever is being nagged about is not done in your time because, he hasn’t made it a priority to him and he doesn’t like to be told what to do or when to do it by his wife. So, he takes you out of the wife category and sticks you in the role of an older sister or mother since he’s used to being disrespected by them.
There is a better way then nagging to get him to do something on your honey do list. It will take a little time to train yourself and your husband to implement it at first and the results won’t be 100% all the time. However, it will be a big improvement on what you are getting now.
A lot of the times it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. And at the first hint of you trying to be his boss he will put on that layer of protection and make you feel like he doesn’t love you anymore.
If you want your husband to take you serious and participate in this you have to open him up to the idea and give him some choices. It will make him feel like he is in control and he’ll put you back in the role of his wife instead of mother.
Just ask him if he feels like you nag him about anything. If he says no, you deserve a pat on the back! The good news is you’re not a nagging wife. The bad news is your problem stems from something else. If he says yes then tell him that you have been thinking about it. And just say I was wrong to do that to you and apologize.
It’s a bit humbling on your part and it sounds like a change for the better is coming for him. You’ll have his full attention then. Basically you just opened up your purse and gave him his gonads back and he feels more like a man. Now he’s ready to listen to you!
Then say what if I wrote my request down for you and just mentioned them to you when I do. Would that be nagging? He’ll have to say no, that would be fine. Then ask, do you prefer to have them on a note pad or a white board? Wait for the answer.
Then ask him where would be the best place to put it for him so; we both know where it’s at? Instead of titling it honey do list call it something like Mary’s Requests, it won’t seem so demanding to him that way. Put a date on the request when you write one down. It will add a touch of pressure for him without nagging.
To start, out only write down one request at a time. When he gets that one done always tell him or show him how much you appreciate him doing that for you before you write the next one. After a while you can write more then one at a time. Just go slow at first.
Warning: If you keep nagging you wasted your time and may not be able to start over. I’ve seen this work on one of the most stubborn bullheaded guys I’ve ever met. It just takes some patience on your part at first so, don’t pressure him too much. That would be nagging again!
Praise will always work better than pressure on a man. Just a little appreciation and admiration is a great motivator to him. He’ll feel respected by you and pretty soon you won’t be saying I feel like my husband doesn’t love me anymore.
There are plenty more reasons why women feel like their husband doesn’t love them anymore. And we can’t cover them all in one blog post so, if this didn’t cover your issue check out Kara’s library of books especially “Men Made Easy“.
I’ve read this book myself. And I’ll promise you this sister, you ‘ll gain so much understanding about men. That if you read this book and put it into practice what Kara shows you how to do, you will be more confident, happy and have unbelievable influence over your husband, so much so, your single friends will be asking you if he has a brother because they’ll even notice he’s treating you that good.
And you’ll never be able to say again with a straight face I feel like my husband doesn’t love me anymore.
