Finding Mr. Right

Finding Mr. Right

Finding Mr. Right is actually pretty easy to do however, finding the Mr. Right for you is a whole other story. Oh, we both believe he’s out there somewhere. And he’s still single and not involved either.

Because setting your sights on a married man can get you shot by a jealous wife so, he better be single, for your safety’s sake. And besides that if he was married already and wanting to date you, he would have to lie to his wife about where he’s been to be with you.

And that would make him a liar and a cheater. Is that someone you could really trust to be your Mr. Right? No, that’s not what you’re looking for; you have too much common sense to fall for a turkey like that! Anyone that would risk your life is NOT your Mr. Right.

The first thing you need to do before looking for your Mr. Right is do some real soul searching. You have to decide what you expect from a man and what you can live with and without. After all, your relationship does involve you too.

So many women marry a guy knowing good and well she plans on changing him to suit her after they’re married. And all I have to say to that is lots of luck! It’s not going to happen very easy for the most part.

A man marries a woman hoping she never changes and a woman marries a man to change him into her best friend. And the only way that will happen is if she likes him exactly the way he is right now. Men are slow to change. I know, being one myself.

Now, don’t get me wrong because men will change if they think it’s their idea or they can see a real benefit in it for them in doing so. So, before you marry a guy you want to change you better practice your sells spiel a lot.

Otherwise you are heading for a big disappointment.

Your quest for finding Mr. Right is admirable because, who wants to grow old alone?  However, without clarity of who Mr. Right is for you or better yet who Mr. Right is to you, then you’re just hunting in the dark without even a flash light.

My friend Kara wrote a book called “From Mr. Wrong to Mr. Right” to help keep you from wasting time on the wrong guy for you. With her 92 page book there’s no way I could put it all in one blog post. The best I can do is to give you some of the highlights.

There’s no way I could know your situation or how you found this article. Maybe you’re a fan of this blog and read all my articles and this one is not really for you at all. You may be married already and trying to make your relationship better.

And I’ll be writing more to help you but, if you have a friend that’s looking for her Mr. Right please pass it on to her. I know that was a shameless plug and I’d say I’m sorry but, I’m not. There are too many gals out there dating the wrong guy and getting their hearts broken.

There are a lot of really good guys out there looking for a gal just like you and want to treat you right and make you happy, and then there are a lot of users that think it’s all about them. And Kara shows you how to recognize the difference and how to know what you really want in a man.

But, if you don’t know what you want for sure, you’ll be like most gals falling for his looks, car, social status or some other attribute you found attractive and end up wasting your time and being disappointed like the rest of the misguided gals.

Without even knowing you personally I want better for you than that! We only have so much time on this earth and when we’re wasting it with the wrong person the right one known as your Mr. Right could end up getting into the wrong relationship too.

Are you willing to risk that? Your chance may not ever come around again for him! But, you could always settle for the next best choice, I guess. If you got desperate enough. It may not end up being the storybook marriage you always dreamed of though.

I have no doubt that you are special and unique in your own way. No one has your exact attributes and background that makes you that special person you really are. However, you are still human and we all want to be understood.

So, would you agree that understanding is an important part in any relationship? Isn’t that the reason we use specific words in our language instead of just a bunch of grunts and groans? So we can share our knowledge and give understanding to other people.

If you don’t understand your self now and you happen to find your Mr. Right, is it fair to ask him to understand you, when it’s something that you can’t even explain to him? How long do you think it’ll take before you start having misunderstandings?

This could lead to arguments and possibly a break up. Understanding is one of the elements in the foundation of all relationships. And clarity is the key ingredient in understanding, without it things are too vague and we mess up.

Have you ever gone grocery shopping while you were really hungry without a list? Everything looked so good you bought extra, only to throw part of it away because after you got it home some time later the thought of eating it about made you sick.

Well, that’s the same thing some women do while searching for their Mr. Right. They don’t have a clue what exactly they’re shopping for because they didn’t make a list! And after wasting their time on him, just the thought of him about makes them sick.

So, you have a few choices that you could make here.

You could waste your time on the Mr. Wrongs out there and go through all that drama. Or you could invest your time in figuring out what you really want in your Mr. Right so when he does come along you’ll recognize him and be able to spend your time with him.

In Kara’s book “From Mr. Wrong to Mr. Right” she’ll show you how to drill down to get to your real hearts desire and how to fine-tune your list of relationship essentials to what you really want in your Mr. Right.

I’ll warn you right now, if you do what Kara asks you to do, you may discover things that could be obvious to others that you never realized about your self. She’ll help you get down to the deeper truth of what’s really driving you.

To have a lasting relationship you have to have agreement. And sometimes to have agreement there has to be compromises. Kara will help you figure out what you’re willing to negotiate on and where there’s no room for flexibility so, you’ll know if he’s your Mr. Right or not in less time to avoid the heartaches from a bad match for you.

We all have our reasons for doing the things we do. The sad thing is some of those reasons of why we keep doing those things don’t make much sense when we stop and think about it.

If you have a few ex boyfriends in your past chances are you were never taught how to pick your Mr. Right. If you have more than a few ex boyfriends you’ve been in a vicious cycle because of not knowing what to look for in the right guy for you.

Wouldn’t be a whole lot easier to start out with your Mr. Right than having to deal with a Mr. Wrong and try to force a relationship into working for you?

It’s like trying to mix oil and water, as long as you keep stirring it seems like your making progress but, when you stop they’ll still separate. There are only two types of people that would try that, one that likes to experiment and one that doesn’t know any better.

You are in control of your own destiny by the choices you make today. And if you don’t want to make any choices, don’t worry about it. There are always enough control freaks that are more then willing to make them for you! Now that’s a plan but not a good one.

However there is a better way if you’ll allow Kara to help you take control for yourself and start the process of finding and attracting your Mr. Right.

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