My Husband Doesn’t Like
When one woman types in my husband doesn’t like me anymore to find this site I feel bad enough. But when maybe the same woman or three different ones type in the same thing three times in two days there has to be a problem there. But it can be easily solved once you understand how a man’s mind works.
I’m sure it didn’t start out that way though. What woman would marry a man that doesn’t even like her? No, not even for all the money in the world or a gun to her head would an American gal commit to that kind of relationship!
Although there are a few countries that still do have prearranged marriages where she may feel obligated to marry for her family. And a woman could feel unliked by her husband. Which is sad, but it doesn’t have to stay that way.
With very few exceptions women are pretty smart, until it comes to understanding men. And then the tides turn, to very few women actually do. And that’s where most of their relationship problems start.
What normally happens (at least in America) is a guy and a gal are attracted to each other and fall in love, date for a while and then marry. All this time she thinks it’s going to be a story book marriage.
When the honeymoon is over she realizes he’s no prince. Then she tries to change him. And that’s where the problems begin.
So, she tries whining and nagging to get him to become the prince of her dreams. Which doesn’t work. Then she gets the feeling my husband doesn’t like me anymore.
No real man would, with tactics like that. That’s not how to influence any man!
Believe it or not, if your husband keeps coming home to you, he wants to please you. But, he just doesn’t want to feel controlled by you. Save that for the kids or the dog but, not your husband. Even a cat wouldn’t put up with being controlled without a fight.
At one time you knew how to get your guy to make the changes you want in him and make him think it was his own idea. Which causes a lot less problems than going the nagging or whining route. A little hint, it’s all about the famine art of influence. And that’s the reason he married you to begin with.
So, I know and even you know deep down you still have your famine influence however, over time for whatever reason you may have just forgotten how to use it on him. And it happens sometimes even to the best of gals. Because husbands can be so frustrating to you at times. But, you still use it on other people successfully. Maybe, it’s because you don’t have to live with them though.
The majority of relationship problems could be avoided if women only knew more about men. And maybe a refresher coarse on how they attracted their man to begin with. You see, men don’t usually change on their own but, they will change to gain pleasure or to avoid some kind of pain.
He really wants to be your prince and make you happy. That’s how men are but, because you don’t understand him now, you end up treating him in a way that makes him feel more like he’s just your court jester or a little boy instead of your prince.
Most women try their best to get what they want out of their man. But, their finesse is lacking and ends up instead of being compelling it’s just plain out repelling to him.
So, instead of being her knight in shinning armor he puts on his armor to protect himself from her. Giving her the feeling my husband doesn’t like me anymore.
The funny part is, his shinning armor looks more like a rusty tin can to you. But, he really doesn’t care at this point about what you think as long as he feels protected. After all, he was wearing it when he met you and you got him to peal it off for you. That alone says you DO have famine influence. When he pulled it out and put it on again, it made you feel like he doesn’t like me anymore!
In fact he may have even said it to your face I don’t like you anymore. Which is a warning, his armor is on. If he doesn’t feel like you are treating him with the admiration a knight should be treated with. And if another gal comes along, that will treat him with admiration and respect , he’ll be hers. At that point it doesn’t take much to convince him.
Now, he may not know what he wants or likes exactly but, he sure as the world knows what he doesn’t.
After all your husband sees himself as a knight, wanting to save a damsel in distress. But, he doesn’t want to be controlled by a distressed damsel! Your husband actually wants to be your hero. However, something you’re doing makes him feel more like a zero.
Now, don’t get me wrong here. I’m not saying all relationship problems are caused by women. Because men can be the North end of a South bound horse all on their own. (If you get my meaning) Butt, I’m sure you had that figured out already. (The extra “T” was intended)
On their defense though, guys aren’t raised like gals. They’re not trained to articulate their feelings like girls are. They’re taught when their feelings are hurt to just toughen up and be a man. But, they’re usually left on their own to figure out what to be a man actually means.
And being taught not to hit women they just put on their armor for self protection. Which only makes it more difficult for women to get to the real issues causing the problems in the first place.
What I’m trying to say is you can have an advantage over your man. With very little effort on your part, you can turn the misunderstandings around. Solve a lot of problems in your relationship and come off appearing as Miss Understanding to your man. And that’s what he’s craving right now.
Can I let you in on a secret? Men are easier to train than puppy dogs. All they need is the proper attention.
You’ve probably seen little girls who’ve had their daddy wrapped around her little finger. And he would do anything in his power for his little sweetie pie. But, her tactics is elevation through admiration and appreciation instead of emasculation through dissatisfaction to get her way. In other words, she builds his ego with appreciation for what he does do and doesn’t belittle him for what he doesn’t do or does wrong.
You can work that same magic on your husband too. As long as you make him feel like he’s the one in control.
Men only want about a dozen things from a relationship.
And when you can give him at least half of them you will never be able to say my husband doesn’t like me anymore.
For some gals it just comes natural and they don’t even realize what they’re doing enough to explain it to other women.
For most women (another name for them is just average women) it doesn’t come that easy. So, it’s no wonder infidelity is rampant, and the divorce rate is at an all time high and still climbing.
A little side note here: The fact that you even found this site, let alone this particular article, puts you way above average. There are thousands of women going through the same experience you are dealing with frantically looking for answers and don’t know where to find them.
Now, this may seem a little off topic, but I’ll bring it back around so you can get the point.
When my oldest son turned three years old he wanted a blow up wading pool. It was a swimming pool to him though.
He talked about it and probably dreamed about having one of his own. On his birthday we had a little party for him. With his mom and I and his grand parents came to celebrate and give him gifts.
Knowing he wanted a swimming pool SO bad his grandmother wanted him to open it first. Well, since she was the one that bought it for him and we all wanted to see his face when he opened it, why not?
Here comes the funny part.
He rips off the rapping paper, looks at it for a few seconds then tosses the box off to the side with a hint of disappointment in his little face to grab another present. So, his grandmother asked him if he knew what that was.
And with the honesty of a child he said yeah, it’s a heavy picture of a swimming pool. Sure wish I had one!
He just didn’t realize what he had in his hands because, it was in a package he couldn’t relate to at the time. And he didn’t know how to handle it.
Once it was explained to him, that’s how they come. The pool was in the heavy box with the picture on the outside but; the actual pool is in the box and is what gave the box the weight. And it just needed to be taken out of the box and inflated. Then he was so thrilled he could care less about the rest of the gifts.
I promised you a point to this true story. Women sometimes are like children in the fact they just look at the packaging and don’t even realize what they’re holding in their hands.
He’s exactly what you’ve wanted all along and maybe even dreamed about. But once you get him in your hands you don’t even realize there are a few steps involved to get the desire of your heart out of the box. So, you toss him to the side and go for another.
Men and wading pools have a couple things in common. They need to freed from the box that’s restricting them from living up to their full potential. And a bit of inflation to get them to please you.
A pool just needs some air and a guy needs some respect, appreciation, admiration and understanding to get him pumped up.
It goes back to the old saying you can’t judge a book by its cover. You have to understand enough to open it and read the lines. And sometimes between the lines with men. Because, some guys can’t always articulate what they really want very well.
That’s why I recommend “Melt Your Man’s Heart” for any woman who feels like:
You want to be admired but instead you get ignored.
You try to be attractive but he makes you feel like you’re repulsive.
At one time you had confidence in your relationship but now you’re unsure.
You want to be appreciated instead you’re taken for granted.
At one time he made you feel cherished and now you feel abandoned.
There was a time he made you feel special and now he makes you feel replaceable.
You can remember being on the same winning team and now it feels like he’s switched sides.
If any of those struck a note with you then it’s time to change that tune. Because your knight has his armor on. And he feels like he’s doing battle with you. And it’s not your fault, they didn’t teach you this stuff in school.
You do have an advantage over him though. Because his armor isn’t very comfortable for him to wear. And it really doesn’t take much to disarm him. Or convince him how comfortable you can make him feel without it.
Surely, you had to expect some home work with extra curricular activities. Every sport has it’s own set of rules you have to know. And you have to know the plays to be a team player. If not, you get stuck on the side lines until you do. Or worse, kicked off the team.
Marriage could be considered an extra curricular activity. And hopefully even a contact sport for that matter. The difference is your marriage will affect you and your husband’s life more than any game could.
Isn’t that worth investing in a play book to get his armor off? If he’s had it on for awhile now, it has to be stinking. And you both are smelling it and even feeling it at this point. But, as long as he feels he needs it, he’ll endure the smell for his safety. After all no one taught him to understand women any more than someone taught you to understand men.
It may not be your fault your husband doesn’t like you anymore. However, who’s going to take on the responsibility for changing it, if you don’t? How long are you going to wait on him to change things? Are you willing to risk some bimbo coming along and convincing him it’s safe to take his armor off when he’s around her, before you do something about it?
The choice is yours. You can get the answers you’re looking for on how to become irresistible again to your husband and how to have the deep emotional connection you want with him. And do it a lot easier, cheaper and quicker than all the sessions it would take with a marriage counselor. Or simply hope things change for the better on their own and wait it out.
As with most everything in life there’s either a price or a cost. The price of Melt Your Man’s Heart is only $47 with a 60 day money back guarantee if your marriage doesn’t improve. The cost of doing nothing is feeling like your husband doesn’t like you anymore and possibly an affair and or a divorce.
Now, in the last five or ten minutes I’ve taken you by the hand and lead you to this fork in the road. I hope you didn’t feel mislead in anyway because that’s the last thing I want to do to anybody and I hope I gained your trust. But I have to leave you on your own now so, I’ll just say the blue link above is the short cut to where you really want to end up. But, I can’t make that decision for you all I can do is wish you the very best no matter which path you chose.
P.S. I love hearing from my readers either through the comments or the contact page.
Until next time,
Discouragement is like a dirty house
We can chose to live in it like that or
Get busy and do something about it.