Helping married couples and heterosexual dating couples with their relationship issues is what Back 2 Gether.com is all about. I like learning new things but, sorry gays you are on your own. My plate is full right here and I don’t swing from that side of the tree and don’t understand it so, I don’t think can help you.
Being a blog it will always be a work in progress. At the time of writing this, there is only one post so far. And only been on the web for about 6 hours and has already been viewed 3 times. So, there must be a need for a site like this.
With all the Hollywood shows that are being produced promoting infidelity, even the actors can’t seem to stay married for very long at a time. In this day and age of all the sexual transmitted diseases going around that’s a short lived life style.
Our public schools would rather pass out free condoms then to teach our children any kind of morals. Our society has believed lies every since they threw God and prayer out of the public schools. If it feels good do it, only the good die young, that one is only half true because, fools die young also.
The point is we are products of our environment and when it’s standards go down it tends to bring the whole society down with it. Just look at why Rome fell. When the family unit gets divided because, it’s no longer one for all and all for one and it’s all about me. That has never worked for a society and doesn’t work for relationships either.
There are two types of people. Givers and takers. Two givers or one giver and one taker can make a relationship work but, two takers will never work. In most relationships because opposites attract there is usually one that just tends to love more then the other. However, even then, sometimes even the giver gets tired of doing all of the giving and has had enough.
If you are a giver I want to encourage you not to give up. If you are a taker I want to show you how much you have been given and how to return the favor by learning how to do some giving yourself. It’s only hard at first and then it gets easier.
So, who am I to to give you any advice on relationships? That’s a really good question! And I will be truthful and and let you decide if you want to even listen to me or not.
My name is Christopher Baker and the only degree in relationships is from the school of hard knocks. I got married at the age of 19 and my wife and I had five children. We were married 23 years when the divorce was final. She remarried and I have lived alone for the last 7 years until one of my sons moved in with me.
To this point I have never shed a tear over the divorce and doubt she has either. Although we are good friends now and even tease her that her new husband is my new best friend. If he can live with her.
I spent over half of my life with my ex at the time of the divorce so she still shows up in my dreams every now and then. Why? Who knows. Anyway, I have no hard feelings toward her and on the other hand in no hurry to get married again.
I tend to stay pretty busy with the now and not live in the past. Being a home builder with the economy the way it’s been the last few years has given me some free time for some soul searching.
I can’t change my past but just maybe I can help your future. I’m 50 years old now and if I would have known then what I do now my life may have been different. It’s like split milk, history, not worth crying about. Wouldn’t do any good anyway.
However, If I could help others keep their marriages or relationships together my life would be more successful because of it. In the process of helping you I have been learning a lot about relationships myself and what it takes to keep one together.
It’s a win win situation for us both. I have had some time to do some research and my next relationship will be much better and by sharing my knowledge with you your now relationship should be too.
I won’t sugar coat this, relationships are a four letter word. WORK. But in the long run it will be worth all the effort you put into it. Life is all about seed time and harvest. You reap the seeds that you sow. It’s a law just like gravity and there is no way around it.
I’m not an expert and will be the first to admit it. I’m more like a parachute in the law of gravity, all I can do is keep you from killing yourself. But the books I recommend are more like a rocket pack that can take you to new heights.
The choice is yours. You can love me or hate me. You can take my advice or not but there must have been some reason why you found this site and I don’t think it was by accident.
Christopher Baker
