Is She Serious

Is She Serious

Is she serious Tom asked? Because his long time girlfriend just left him. With only a half hour to get to the other side of town for an appointment I ran into my friend Tom at the gas station.

If she is gone than she’s as serious as a heart attack, I say. However, not all heart attacks are fatal and not all break ups are permanent when handled right.

Most women don’t play dump the chump or break up to make up for no reason. So, it’s not a game to her. Tom must have messed up pretty bad and she had enough of it.

Maybe he wasn’t sleeping in a motel however; her leaving was his wake up call. And he decided he wanted her back. Then Tom asked so, what am I going to do now that I know she is serious?

So, I say the best thing he could do is to give her some space for awhile. And by doing so will accomplish a few things to benefit the relationship.

First it’ll be validating her rights to her own feelings. Which is probably one of her issues with him to begin with. This will gain you more brownie points than trying to convince her she is wrong.

Okay, let me explain why. If you start calling, texting or tracking her down right away, you’re going to lose her for good. Because you’re just going to come off as either a stocker or a needy wimp to her.

Women don’t want to date pathetic losers that will come crawling back to them. At that point if she did take him back, he would just be a doormat until he had enough. Or she gets tired of him again.

They want a man with enough backbone to stand on his own two feet. A guy that’s not afraid of change and can adapt to different situations without losing it.

She’s looking for stability in a man so she can lean on him when times get tough. Not some guy who starts crying like a little girl in a pink dress with a fresh mustard stain.

She doesn’t want to be his mommy. And truth be known he doesn’t want her to be either. So, he shouldn’t get all emotional and go crying to her. She has enough girlfriends that do that already.

It’s really a no win situation there. Give her some space. If she really loved him she’s not going to get over him very soon anyway. So, he has some time.

Now chances are pretty good she gave him a fair warning she was upset. She wasn’t so cold hearted to leave him without saying something. Because most women don’t have any problems expressing their feelings.

And he wasn’t listening or he just didn’t want to hear them. Any relationship is sort of like a job. Because it can be work and you have to take the good with the bad. But when you love your job you never have to work another day in your life.

So, we’ve concluded that she is serious. The next question is how serious is he on getting her back? Can he even afford to get her back? What I mean is: everything has a price.

And she has already told him what it is before she left. She expects him to make some changes. More than likely it’s in his actions or attitude. And if he’s not willing to make them, then he can’t afford to get her back.

Because, everyone has their own value system. And some things are worth more than others depending on how they work for the individual.

Once I told him all of that. Tom made the decision to make the changes if it would get his girlfriend back. Then asks how long do I have to wait to contact her?

I say I’d love to talk but, I’m running late and have to go right now. However, there is a web site where you can down load an e-book.

It’ll give you all the answers you need to get your girlfriend back. It’s helped thousands of couples around the world get back2gether.

And it’s less than 40 bucks. Well Tom used his value system alright. And decided to figure it all out for him self. Which didn’t work out very good for him to say the least.

Because there is more to getting a girlfriend back than can be explained in the five minutes I had to spare.

And to make a long story short, his girlfriend is married to another guy and is now expecting her first child. So, I guess Tom would rather have a half a tank of gas than his girlfriend back.

And the sad part about it is, they are both gone now. But at least he knows for sure and stopped asking is she serious?