Can My Husband Ever Love Me Again?

I can feel your pain if you have to ask, “Can my husband ever love me again”? I deal with these kinds of questions every day with this blog and it just depends on what’s been going on with you. You didn’t get the feeling that my husband doesn’t love me anymore over night so something had to have changed in your relationship over time.

However, I’ve never ever even heard of a guy leaving his wife when she shows him respect, appreciation, admiration and gives him sex! I know I’ve said this before in other articles and it’s still true in this one too.

It may seem like I’m repeating myself and that’s only because I am. And I would apologize for it but, I’m not sorry one little bit! Some folks learn better from video or audio and others from reading and repetition. Since I don’t do video or audio right now I’ll just have to stick with the repetition to get the point across.

In all fairness to you I have the face for radio and a voice for silent movies so; actually I’m doing you a big favor here. And you can thank me later if I can answer your question of can my husband ever love me again.

I got an e-mail from a gal a while back, we’ll just call her Beth (not her real name) but, it will do for this purpose. Beth was feeling bad because, she had cheated on her husband and he left her. Sometimes hindsight is 20/20 and she knew she made a BIG mistake.

The affair only lasted for a time or two however, the damage was already done! Beth’s husband felt like she had ripped out his heart and stomped on it. He thought he could trust her to be faithful to him and she abused his trust. His heart and world was totally crushed so, he moved out.

Now that’s when Beth realized she really had a marriage mess on her hands and wondered if her husband could ever love her again. Over coming adultery can be one of the hardest things a couple could ever go through however, if they can get past it, their relationship usually ends up closer then before.

Don’t think for one minute that I’m recommending having an affair to get you closer by any means because; some marriages just won’t survive that big of a trauma. Besides that there is a better way and a lot less painful for everybody.

Infidelity is just plain cruel on your partner. They would rather take a beating for you than one like that from you. And then all your friends, business associates, and family start to wonder about your trust worthiness also.

When someone could treat their mate that’s supposed to be their best friend like that what are you going to do behind their backs too? Trust can be given freely at first but, once it’s broken it’s awfully hard to regain.

Well, to make a long story short, which is almost impossible for me. To answer Beth’s question of can my husband ever love me again? It turns out to be a definite YES!  They are back2gether now only because she could follow good advice.

I told her to cut off all communication with the guy from the affair and be open and honest with her husband. That’s the only way she was ever going to regain his trust.

Just let me worn you if you’re thinking about having an affair don’t do it! At least not if you want to keep your mate and not be drug through hell in the process. You see the truth never changes but, lies keep changing all the time.

This is how it works in most cases! The one that was cheated on wants to know that they can trust you again so; they will tend to play like a police detective and have you confess to your crime. In this case every minute detail of the affair.

When it’s all over, which it sometimes takes weeks of drilling, you’ll feel like a peg board. And if all your answers don’t line up with each other like the holes in a peg board you won’t have regained their trust still.

In Beth’s case she endured the interrogations and apparently passed with flying colors. Having an affair may sound like fun but, when you have to admit every little detail to your mate that has to be embarrassing, humiliating and down right self degrading.

In reality I admire them both for sticking it out and going through the thick and thin of marriage. However, all that entire pain and heart ache could have been avoided if they would have just communicated openly and honestly all along.

That seems to be a big problem with couples these days. How well do you really know your mate? Just because you know a lot of surface things about them doesn’t mean you have a full understanding of what makes them tick.

Every body wants to be understood and if you won’t invest the time it takes in your relationship someone else out there just might be willing to take your place. If you would like to get closer to your mate there’s a fun book of 1,000 things for couples to talk about to help get to know each other better.

Do you have a regular date night with your spouse?  You should but, I know from experience that money is tight for a lot of folks right now so, here’s a book on 300 creative and inexpensive date ideas to rekindle your relationship while you’re getting to know your mate better.